The 3-Touch System faces predictable challenges:
"They didn't respond to my coffee invitation" One non-response doesn't mean rejection. Try once more after 2 weeks. If still no response, mark as "not compatible" and move on. Their loss.
"The coffee meeting was awkward" Not every connection will progress. If Touch 1 feels forced, thank them for their time and don't proceed to Touch 2. Quality over quantity.
"I don't have activity ideas" Ask during Touch 1: "What have you been wanting to try but haven't yet?" or "What's your ideal weekend activity?" Build Touch 2 around their answer.
"Touch 3 feels too intimate" You might be moving too fast or misreading the relationship. Add a "Touch 2.5"—another shared activity before attempting deeper connection.
"The system feels calculated" Structure enables authenticity, not replaces it. You're creating opportunities for genuine connection, not manipulating outcomes.
Troubleshooting Stalled Conversions
When connections stall between touches:
The Restart Message: "Hey [Name], I realized we never followed up on that coffee. Life got crazy, but I'd still love to connect if you're interested."
The Honest Check-In: "Hi [Name], I enjoyed our coffee but wasn't sure if you were interested in hanging out again. No pressure either way, just wanted to check."
The Specific Invitation: "Hey [Name], I'm going to [specific event] next Saturday. Remember you mentioned interest in [related topic]. Want to join?"
The Graceful Release: If someone consistently doesn't engage, release with grace: "Hey [Name], seems our schedules aren't aligning. If things change, I'd love to reconnect. Otherwise, it was great meeting you!"