The Touch 1 Script Library
Reaching out after initial meeting feels vulnerable. Use these templates:
The Direct Approach: "Hey [Name], I really enjoyed our conversation about [specific topic] at [event]. Would you be interested in grabbing coffee sometime next week to continue the discussion?"
The Value-Add Approach: "Hi [Name], I came across [article/event/resource] related to what we discussed at [event]. Would love to share it over coffee if you're interested."
The Mutual Benefit Approach: "Hey [Name], I remember you mentioning [challenge/interest]. I'm dealing with something similar. Want to grab coffee and brainstorm together?"
The Time-Sensitive Approach: "Hi [Name], I know we both have busy schedules, but I'd love to catch up over a quick coffee before the month gets too crazy. How's your availability next week?"
The Activity Menu Matrix
Choose Touch 2 activities based on personality and interest alignment:
|Interest Type|Low Energy Option|High Energy Option|Creative Option| |------------|-----------------|------------------|---------------| |Food/Drink|Wine tasting|Cooking class|Food truck tour| |Arts/Culture|Gallery visit|Live music show|Pottery class| |Outdoors|Nature walk|Rock climbing|Sunset photography| |Learning|Lecture/talk|Workshop|Trivia night| |Wellness|Gentle yoga|HIIT class|Meditation workshop|
Match activity intensity to both people's comfort levels and energy constraints.
The Vulnerability Ladder
Touch 3 requires appropriate vulnerability. Progress gradually:
Level 1 - Preferences and Opinions: - Share unpopular opinions on light topics - Discuss personal preferences openly - Express genuine reactions
Level 2 - Challenges and Struggles: - Discuss current work challenges - Share parenting difficulties - Talk about life transitions
Level 3 - Fears and Dreams: - Reveal deeper anxieties - Share long-term dreams - Discuss past experiences that shaped you
Level 4 - Core Values and Wounds: - Talk about what drives you - Share past hurts (appropriately) - Discuss fundamental beliefs
Match vulnerability level to relationship depth. Don't overshare early.
The Conversion Tracker
Track your conversion efforts to identify patterns:
|Contact Name|Touch 1 Date|Touch 1 Outcome|Touch 2 Date|Touch 2 Outcome|Touch 3 Date|Touch 3 Outcome|Notes| |------------|------------|---------------|------------|---------------|------------|---------------|-----| |Example: Sarah|Jan 5|Great chemistry|Jan 20|Bonded over workout|Feb 10|Deep connection|Now close friend|
This reveals: - Your conversion success rate - Optimal timing between touches - Which activities work best - Where connections typically stall