The Outreach Tracker
Create a simple tracking system:
|Date|Name|Context|Outreach Type|Response?|Outcome|Lessons| |---|---|---|---|---|---|---| |Jan 5|Sarah|Book club|Coffee invite|Yes|Met Jan 15|Weekday mornings work better| |Jan 5|Tom|Gym|Climbing invite|No|-|Maybe too activity-specific early| |Jan 6|Maya|Neighbor|Dog walk|Yes|Regular walks|Shared activity lowered pressure|
Tracking reveals patterns: - Which contexts yield better responses - What invitation types work for you - Optimal timing and communication methods - Your actual ratios (might be better than 10-3-1!)
The Rejection Reframe Library
Pre-written reframes for common rejection scenarios:
No Response to Initial Outreach: - "They might be overwhelmed with life right now" - "Our timing might not align—not about me" - "This filters for people with bandwidth for new friends" - "Seven more to go in this round!"
Cancelled Plans: - "Life happens—not necessarily about interest" - "Good they communicated rather than ghosting" - "Opportunity to practice grace and try again" - "Maybe they're anxious too"
Explicit Not Interested: - "Appreciate their honesty—saves us both time" - "Not everyone will be compatible—that's normal" - "They made space for someone who fits better" - "Good data for refining my approach"
The Outreach Template Library
Reduce friction with ready-to-customize templates:
The Direct Approach: "Hi [Name], I really enjoyed our conversation about [specific topic] at [event]. I'm trying to expand my social circle beyond just work. Would you be interested in grabbing coffee next week?"
The Activity-Based Approach: "Hey [Name], you mentioned being interested in [activity]. I'm planning to check out [specific opportunity] this Saturday. Want to join?"
The Reconnection Approach: "Hi [Name], I realized it's been forever since we connected. I'm making an effort to revitalize friendships that matter. Would love to catch up over coffee if you're interested."
The Vulnerability Approach: "Hey [Name], this feels a bit vulnerable, but I really enjoyed meeting you and would love to get to know you better. Any interest in [specific activity]?"
The Energy Management Matrix
Not all rejections hit equally. Manage your emotional energy:
|Outreach Risk Level|Emotional Cost|Volume Target|Recovery Needed| |---|---|---|---| |Low (activity invites)|Minimal|5-6 per week|None| |Medium (coffee invites)|Moderate|3-4 per week|Day between| |High (vulnerable shares)|Significant|1-2 per week|Process with friend|
Balance high and low-risk outreaches to maintain resilience.