The ADAPT system helps friendships survive and even thrive through major life disruptions:
A - Acknowledge the Change Impact
Name the disruption honestly:
- Recognize how change affects your capacity
- Communicate shifts to existing friends
- Give yourself grace during transitions
- Expect friendship evolution, not stasisD - Design New Connection Systems
Create structure where none exists:
- Build remote work social routines
- Establish new location anchor points
- Develop transition-appropriate rituals
- Adapt maintenance to new realityA - Anchor Across Changes
Maintain continuity threads:
- Keep some relationships change-proof
- Create portable friendship practices
- Document friendship history
- Build bridges between life phasesP - Proactively Build in New Context
Don't wait for stability:
- Start friend-finding immediately
- Lower standards during transitions
- Focus on proximity possibilities
- Accept temporary connectionsT - Transform Challenges into Connection
Use disruption as bonding opportunity:
- Share vulnerability about changes
- Seek others in similar transitions
- Create support networks
- Build friendships around adaptation