Chapter 103

Week-by-Week Implementation Guide

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FOUNDATION PHASE (Days 1-30)

Week 1: Assessment and Awareness Focus: Understanding your starting point

Monday-Tuesday: - Complete Friendship Audit (Chapter 1) - List all relationships beyond acquaintance level - Note last contact, relationship quality, energy exchange

Wednesday-Thursday: - Map relationships to Five Zones (Chapter 2) - Create visual zone representation - Identify gaps and imbalances

Friday-Sunday: - Assess TEP constraints (Chapter 3) - Track actual available time - Map energy patterns - Analyze proximity challenges

Week 2: Portfolio Design and Planning Focus: Creating your friendship strategy

Monday-Tuesday: - Design ideal 3-2-1 Portfolio (Chapter 4) - Compare current state to ideal - Identify specific gaps to fill

Wednesday-Thursday: - Choose tracking system (Chapter 7) - Set up basic CRM (spreadsheet, app, or notebook) - Input Zone 4-5 relationships first

Friday-Sunday: - Create outreach list (Chapter 8) - Identify 10 reconnection possibilities - List 10 new connection opportunities - Draft basic outreach templates

Week 3: Micro-Actions and Habits Focus: Building sustainable practices

Monday-Wednesday: - Implement daily micro-connections - Send 3 "thinking of you" messages - Respond to 1 pending message daily

Thursday-Friday: - Practice first contact skills (Chapter 5) - Make friendly contact with 5 strangers - Use SPARK method once

Weekend: - Schedule first coffee meeting (Chapter 6) - Reach out to 3 potential connections - Plan week 4 social activities

Week 4: System Testing and Refinement Focus: Learning what works for you

Monday-Wednesday: - Track all social interactions - Note energy levels and outcomes - Identify patterns and preferences

Thursday-Friday: - Refine your approach based on learning - Adjust templates and scripts - Update tracking systems

Weekend: - Complete month 1 review - Celebrate small wins - Plan month 2 expansion

EXPANSION PHASE (Days 31-60)

Week 5: Active Outreach Campaign Focus: Building new connections

Monday-Wednesday: - Launch 10-3-1 campaign (Chapter 8) - Send 10 outreach messages - Track responses without attachment

Thursday-Friday: - Follow up on responses - Schedule coffee meetings - Continue micro-connections

Weekend: - Attend 1-2 social events - Practice SPARK method - Update CRM with new contacts

Week 6: Conversion Acceleration Focus: Moving acquaintances to friends

Monday-Wednesday: - Identify 3 Touch 1 candidates - Schedule coffee meetings - Prepare conversation deepeners

Thursday-Friday: - Execute Touch 1 meetings - Plan Touch 2 activities - Continue daily maintenance

Weekend: - Host or organize group activity - Combine multiple connections - Document what works

Week 7: Deepening Existing Relationships Focus: Creating meaningful connections

Monday-Wednesday: - Apply DEEPER method (Chapter 9) - Choose 2 relationships to deepen - Practice vulnerability ladder

Thursday-Friday: - Create depth-enabling contexts - Have one meaningful conversation - Share something personally significant

Weekend: - Extended time with one friend - Practice presence over performance - Reflect on comfort zone expansion

Week 8: Portfolio Optimization Focus: Balancing your social investments

Monday-Wednesday: - Review portfolio balance - Identify over/under investments - Adjust time allocation

Thursday-Friday: - Prune draining relationships kindly - Increase investment in high-potential connections - Communicate boundaries clearly

Weekend: - Month 2 comprehensive review - Analyze successful strategies - Plan final month push

INTEGRATION PHASE (Days 61-90)

Week 9: Maintenance System Creation Focus: Building sustainable practices

Monday-Wednesday: - Implement MAINTAIN system (Chapter 10) - Create weekly maintenance ritual - Set up automated reminders

Thursday-Friday: - Design integrated activities - Stack friendship with necessities - Build recurring events

Weekend: - Test run full maintenance system - Adjust based on reality - Create accountability structure

Week 10: Adaptation Strategies Focus: Building resilient friendships

Monday-Wednesday: - Apply ADAPT framework (Chapter 11) - Address current life transitions - Build virtual infrastructure

Thursday-Friday: - Create transition communication templates - Design location-independent practices - Plan for future disruptions

Weekend: - Stress-test your systems - Identify vulnerability points - Build redundancy

Week 11: Advanced Integration Focus: Making friendship automatic

Monday-Wednesday: - Refine all systems for efficiency - Eliminate friction points - Create habitat design for connection

Thursday-Friday: - Build friend-inclusive routines - Design social defaults - Create environmental triggers

Weekend: - Host celebration gathering - Acknowledge transformation - Share journey with friends

Week 12: Future Planning and Celebration Focus: Sustaining momentum beyond 90 days

Monday-Wednesday: - Complete final friendship audit - Compare to baseline - Document transformation

Thursday-Friday: - Create 6-month plan - Set quarterly review schedule - Build evolution capacity

Weekend: - Celebrate with friends - Share learnings and gratitude - Commit to continued growth