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# Table of Contents
- Introduction: The Great Adult Friendship Crisis - Chapter 1: The Friendship Audit - Understanding Your Social Health - Chapter 2: The 5 Friendship Zones - A New Framework - Chapter 3: The TEP Triangle - Time, Energy, and Proximity - Chapter 4: The 3-2-1 Portfolio Model - Strategic Social Investment - Chapter 5: Making First Contact - From Stranger to Acquaintance - Chapter 6: The 3-Touch Conversion System - Chapter 7: Building Your Friendship CRM - Chapter 8: The 10-3-1 Outreach Strategy - Rejection Resilience - Chapter 9: Deepening Connections - From Surface to Substance - Chapter 10: Maintaining Friendships in a Busy Life - Chapter 11: Special Situations - Remote Work, Moves, and Life Changes - Chapter 12: Your 90-Day Friendship Action Plan - Conclusion: Building Your Social Legacy - Appendix: Tools, Templates, and Worksheets
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# Chapter 1: The Friendship Audit - Understanding Your Social Health
Noor stared at her phone, scrolling through hundreds of contacts. A marketing manager at 34, she'd collected these numbers through years of conferences, job changes, and social events. Yet sitting in her Seattle apartment on a Friday evening, she couldn't think of a single person to call for weekend plans.
"I have all these connections," she told her therapist, "but no real friends."
The therapist's response changed everything: "When was the last time you actually assessed your social health as thoroughly as you review your quarterly marketing metrics?"
Noor realized she tracked website conversions, email open rates, and customer acquisition costs down to the decimal point. But her social life? That was a black box of vague feelings and wishful thinking.
You can't improve what you don't measure. And most of us have never truly measured our friendship situation.